It is easy to confuse assertiveness with getting your point across no matter how loud or aggressive you need to be. We all know these people, the ones that usually end up getting the least amount of respect but walk around with their head held high thinking they are all that matters.
Some of us have also bitten our lip for so long, lacking the confidence to speak up, until you burst out with the words and attitude that really was not what you had planned.
Being assertive simply means having the confidence and belief in yourself to make the daily decisions we all have to make and then carry through with them. These decisions could be about relationships, money, work, lifestyle, or anything else.
Being assertive means trusting your own ability and judgement and working towards any goals you may have set yourself.
Being assertive means saying no when you do not want to do something, or saying yes to something that you want to do but would normally play it safe and say no to.
Being assertive means asking for help when you need it, without feeling embarrassed.
Being assertive means being able to talk in social situations with confidence, without feeling uncomfortable or scared of coming across as stupid.
It means being able to stand your ground, to say what you think, being able to respond to criticism, and express your own opinions without feeling embarrassed, anxious, overly self-aware or held back by shyness.
It can be a fine balance. Being too assertive can come across as aggression. The type of person that loves to state “I just say what I think, me” are usually the ones who are listened to the least.
They usually force their opinions on you whilst showing little to no respect, whilst getting angrier and more irritated.
Assertiveness means staying calm, communicating effectively and calmly, whilst showing respect and sensitivity.
Hypnotherapy can be a huge help for dealing with the reasons behind not being able to be assertive. This usually means helping you build your self-confidence, lowering your anxiety levels, and giving you the belief in yourself that you may be lacking.
Hypnotherapy can give you the real you back.
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